I firmly believe that everyone wants to improve and be better. That’s the basic premise of “Living in Your Top 1%.” To do this, you need to have a map and system like you do for so many other things in your life – such as getting ready in the morning or going to work. This is one of the core areas I focus on when I work with clients. The system includes making yourself a priority and setting what I call non-negotiables. If not, you are leaving potential on the table.
Non-negotiables are any beliefs, commitments, or values you are not willing to compromise. They are the boundaries that guide and support each pillar in your company (that’s you). Identifying and using your non-negotiables will help you make yourself a priority and balance your needs in line with the bigger picture. When you are clear on what’s important, you can make better decisions. When these things fall off, you begin to lose your sense of balance and your foundation starts to break down. This is one of the most challenging things to do because many people feel guilty when they put themselves first or consider their own needs. When you ignore your non-negotiables, you compromise a part of yourself and end up giving less than your best. Honoring your set of non-negotiables helps you regain balance.
You can have non-negotiables in every area of your life such as work, relationships, healthy living, and finances. It is essential that you are clear on these items. Some of my non-negotiables include getting at least seven hours of sleep, exercising five days a week, being honest, living in an environment that inspires me, being on time for appointments and paying my bills on time. When you disregard your non-negotiables you disregard yourself and start to push yourself out of balance.
I encourage you to take five minutes and write down your non-negotiables to live your best life. These are things you do on a consistent basis to feel centered. Take a look at your list and see how well you are incorporating your set of non-negotiables. Often, it’s just a small shift in your daily practices that can lead to big results.
Believe in yourself,
Alissa Finerman is an Executive Coach and Gallup Certified Strengths Coach, speaker and author of Living in YOUR Top 1%. She works with managers, C-suite executives and teams to leverage strengths, shift beliefs and achieve meaningful goals. Alissa has an MBA from the Wharton School and a BA from the University of California, Berkeley. She has worked with Ross Stores, Petco, BNP Paribas, Gibson, Dunn & Crutcher, Brookfield Property Partners, Neutrogena, Bristol-Myers Squibb and Dress for Success. To learn more about coaching with Alissa, please visit her website and follow her on Facebook